This whole incident is so traumatizing for all involved.

First , may I say thank God there was none fatally injured in this incident.

I feel strongly that any veteran who puts his life on the line deserves at the very least counseling and and a readjustment period. This veteran put his life on the line for our country. as tragic as this whole incident was for both parties involved, I feel strongly our government needs to address the emotional issues this Iraqi veteran is facing. This must be addresed and not ignored. Our government and military owe this veteran and his wife much needed counseling. I feel this is where our government drops the ball on our veterans. Most veterans do not even realize they need help when they return. It is a fact that many get into legal issues before they realize their lives are out of control. In civilian courts they are seeing multitudes of young veterans who can not cope in every day life. They are mandating most to The VA system for help in substance abuse, alcohol abuse and legal issues. Why then, can't our military do the same with our returning veterans?

There are many rumors surfacing regarding this young soldier.

The truth is a crime was committed. A young wife was truly traumatized in this incident.

The bottom line is this soldier is in desperate need of intensive help and counseling as he goes through the legal process.

At what point do we stop ignoring all the issues of our returning vets? Must we wait for a crime such as this or worse before we realize there is a problem?

I hope the government takes this issue seriously with this young veteran, he desperatly needs help and support. we are all for supporting our veterans when they are fighting in a war, however when they return and their lives spin out of control, who supports them then?!

This whole incident may have been avoided if this young man had been recieving on going counseling, through The Military.

I am eternally grateful his young wife is ok physically. I pray she gets the help she deserves and is able to independently move on until this young man gets some serious help.

Kitty Kat: Thank you so much for your kind remarks and prayers. Both families need everybodys prayer right now. I am better today than I was yesterday, or even the day before, and I will be even better tomorrow I suspect. I do realize there will be many mountains to climb during the healing process, but with God at my side, and at Clints, we will survive!

Gloribee, the only reason why I posted a comment at all today, was to try to offer a different point of view. It has been a heated debate. The bottom line is that real people were hurt and the blame game doesn't help anyone, nor does judgement. It isn't our place to judge is it? I am sorry for your pain. My heart skipped a beat when I imagined you on the phone with your son when you heard the gunshot. Thank you for adding your comments: adding some truth to the mix brought much needed balance to this blog. I'm sorry some people are still so close-minded. My prayers are with you and your family.

AKHockeyFan: This did not happen on FWW, trust me, I know first hand. She ran towards the front gate from the apartment, was picked up by someone as she was running down the road crying, and brought on FWW.

Thanks Reikertim. No problem. I just didn't want everyone to think she was the entire problem. Takes two ya know! Military was the best choice Clinton ever made. And now..............????????

Gloribee, sorry you know your son better than I do and again I'm just a little pissed off about everyone blaming the Military and Clinton for the problems. I'm done! Sorry for bothering you.

Reikertim: I did NOT say she was the problem! Her illness was only one of the problems in the marriage. He has his own issues which I'm sure were problematic to the relationship.

celtic33: You may click on my name, takes you to my profile. If you would like to say more, I believe there is a way to e-mail me. If not, I could always post a temp e-mail address for you to use. Have I had the wool pulled over my eyes?

Celtic33- you've painted quite a sad story. Poor helpless, defenseless Clinton was unable to stop the way this evil person destroyed his life. He was driven to desperate measures. Too bad that's not how it works, eh? This is the REAL world. Welcome to it. He could have left her long ago if there was such "destruction." He made is bed and, too bad for him, he decided to hit her and take a gun and shoot a few times (thankfully not hurting anyone). That's not how people work through things.

Bella- Being suicidal isn't a magic loophole either. He hit her, frightened her and took out a weapon. It's not like he was just lying in the fetal position whimpering and asking for help. He was dangerous. Obviously. If you're going to put yourself in her position, at least do it completely. Regardless of what my husband was saying about suicide, if he hit me- done. I'm out. I'll call the cops and his buddies to keep him safe, but nope. There's a distinct line there.

alaskangal. You are right, there is nothing that gives any man the right, to slap his spouse. Not even when the wife is first hitting him. NOTHING! Because I too, have been there done that. She did not deserved to be slapped for any reason what so ever. But unfortunately, every single human being, will sometime cross that line, depending on what type of abuse they are going through at the time. Clinton WILL "pay the price". And, so are MANY family members "paying the price" today. May we ALL find solice in our lives!

As women we also have to be responsible for our actions. I completely understand the seriousness of domestic violence for the reasons I stated earlier. What upsets me is when women push and push and push and then get upset and cry domestic violence when the situation gets out of hand. You can't instigate something and then get upset when it backfires. Its like crying wolf and makes it so much harder for women who are truly abused to get help. Also as someone who has delt with a suicidal spouse before the last thing I would do if I knew he was hurting about about to go to that dark place would be to leave him and go have a slumber party with another wife. I would stay home and take care of my husband.

gloribee-I got to this "Now who's to blame here? Both are!" and now I can't read the rest of what you said. Nobody seems to understand the seriousness of physical abuse. How many times do I have to say this? REGARDLESS of what she was doing/saying/thinking/not doing/not thinking/ not saying she did NOT deserve physical abuse and she is NOT to blame for getting beat. You definitely described a toxic situation. But, again, she is NOT to be blamed for the physical violence she experienced. There is no "well, if" or "but" or "what if" in there that would make hitting her acceptable. Sure, she might have been crazy on her meds. Sure, he needed anger management. Doesn't matter. He took it to a level that is unacceptable and he is responsible for taking it to that level. Period.

Wow, all different kinds of feelings here! No one really knows the entire story, except the man and his wife. What would you say if you knew the wife is Bi Polar and has not been on any meds since she came back with him the end of October? After many anxious phone calls, Her family was able to talk her into going to the emergency room to be evaluated about three weeks ago. She was given meds for twenty days. She took them for two days, and did not feel well on them. So she stopped them. She was suppose to follow up with another doctor.If she wasn't willing to find a doctor on her own He should have tried to find one asap. He went to a counsler a week and a half ago,for anger managment. He was suppose to return again, the day this incedent took place. Now who's to blame here? Both are! He was obviously drinking more and more, to hide behind, instead of facing the marital problems head on. He should have been the stronger one, in the relationship. He knows that now. Hindsight is always 20-20. Now he has probably lost his future, due to the dangers of alcohol. She has been more tramatized from this than anything before in her life. She was not out having an affair. She wanted to spend the night at a fellow soldier's and wifes house. Sincethe two women have a lot in common, I can understand this. But could a very newly wed husband? Certainly not while under the influence. Maybe not, even if he was sober. I do not condone his actions, by any means. I do however condem the both for not seeking help sooner. They had options to take well befor this excalated beyond control. Neither one took the opportunity to check out the options other than that one counseling visit for Clinton. Now, a relationship is over, two families are terribly devastated about what has taken place, and only God knows what will take place, for the futures of these two very special young people. By the way I know this much..because I am Clinton's mother. I was on the phone with him, when he was threatning suicide. I heard the ONE shot that took place. I was praying, while listening to him. I am heartbroken, beyond what any body can imagine. I love my son, I love his wife dearly. It is now in God's hands! I know both sides of the story now. I also will be praying forever for the both of them.

And another hole in the story.... Why did she leave him home in the first place..... What women would leave her husband home?

And this line....police that she arrived at the couple’s home on post about 1 a.m. to find Shufelt intoxicated and angry because she wanted to go back out. He knew all about this before she got home so he starting drinking..... I don't think so

bella_blue, if you read from my post that being an independent woman meant being disrespectful then I apologize. That's certainly not what I was implying. I was simply making the point that she deserves respect. The fact remains that regardless of where she was going or what she was doing, this guy put a heck of a lot of people at risk when he lost control. There are signs of PTSD far before they hit this point and, yes, she may have noticed them. But that's not at all mentioned in the article and she could simply have been going for a drive to let him cool down or go to a friends because she felt unsafe (which, she was dead on if she did). No matter WHAT his reason was for doing this and no matter WHAT role she may or may not have played THE VICTIM IS NOT TO BE BLAMED. He lost control and he has to take responsibility for his actions. Just because he's a soldier doesn't mean he's somehow in a loophole where he can not be responsible for his actions. In fact, that should hold him MORE accountable. That's what my husband makes sure of when it comes to his men in uniform. It isn't her responsibility to take care of him--ESPECIALLY if he's putting her in danger. This is apparently a toxic relationship, but there's no call for putting blame on the victim. I really don't understand why you ladies are letting HIM be the victim here. He, just like everyone else, has to be held responsible for his actions. What aren't you understanding?

I agree with the comments of 'Alaskangal3' - there is no justification for violence, and especially guns in response to domestic difficulties - regardless of what those difficulties are. The firing of a weapon inside the building was 'out-of-control' behavior and a clear indifference to the safety of[unknown] others. And I think that community attitudes that there is some justification for such behavior [as opposed to simply being able to understand the man's frustration], do indeed contribute to the high incident of such behavior in this State.

I also think that there is no justification for the way the military handles [or ignores] the mental and emotional stress that their members undergo when deployed in warfare, and stigmatizes those who are self-aware enough to want help. THAT situation begs these sorts of incidents to ocur.

renimswen- I know exactly what they've been through. My husband was there. Regardless of what they've been through, they still have to be law abiding and they still have NO RIGHT to mistreat ANYONE or put ANYONE in danger. There's a line that has to be drawn somewhere. Nobody's saying this soldier didn't do a great service to our country. Apparently, however, someone's doing a great disservice to him by allowing his behavior to have escalated to this point.

Unless you fully understand the Bull#### that the soldiers have gone through in the last year, you should reserve your opinions. This is probably the first of many readjustment problems. They have been through a lot.

With that said,... guns and alcahol... what could possibly go wrong.

If this didn't occur on post like someone had stated, how did she run to the front gate for help? I know there's houses sort of by the front gate, but why would she run there when theres a fire department and police station near by too?

What a poorly written story... I read that three times and still don't know what took place or where it occurred.

Kitty_Kat: "I have very little patience for women who cannot stay at home" is INCREDIBLY one dimensional. I was talking about your assumptions not your response. I only responded the way any self-respecting, independent woman should. This man needs help, yes, but under the circumstances it is disturbing that you chose to feel sorry him. Emotional abuse is already confusing and elusive, as you might know from your experience. Emotional abuse is even worse for a military spouse with a returned hero, since there's an expectation to bend, forgive and allow certain behaviors. Your comment not only echoed that ridiculous expectation, but was also not well thought out as you accused the victim of being the source of her own abuse. Sick.